In today’s world, it sometimes feels taboo to openly admit that you genuinely want to take care of your home & (if you have one) your family. Let me be clear—I am ALL for independence, equality, & a woman’s right to choose her own path. But I’ve noticed lately that when women independently choose to prioritize their families or enjoy domestic life, the tables turn. Suddenly, it’s assumed you’ve stepped back in time or turned your back on feminism.
But isn’t feminism about choice?
If a woman chooses a career—great! If she chooses family—also great! And if she chooses both—YOU GO GIRL! 💪🏻 We should celebrate every version of choice, not shame one in favor of another.
Lately, I’ve seen any subtle hint of domesticity flippantly labeled & immediately assumed as “tradwife” content. Do I think the tradwife movement is concerning? Absolutely when you look at the context behind it. Do I think some women are being mislabeled as tradwives. Also, yes. There’s a MASSIVE difference between “being barefoot in the kitchen because your spouse ordered you to” & wanting to be there because you genuinely enjoy creating a home & cooking for your family. For me, keeping house is therapeutic. I love trying new recipes, cleaning, organizing, & creating a cozy space that feels warm & welcoming. At the same time, I love my career. I love working in social media marketing, building websites, & networking. I’ve found such joy & personal growth in both worlds—& I’m grateful to live in a time where that’s possible.
I want to see a world where we value & both ambition AND care, career AND family, technology AND tradition. Real freedom isn’t just about breaking old molds—it’s about choosing the life that brings you joy, without fear of judgment. I consider myself a feminist—100%. Which is why it’s absurd that I even feel hesitant to post this. If you want to be a stay-at-home mom, or even just a stay-at-home wife, then so be it—if that’s what you truly want. Not what your husband wants. Not what your friends want. Not what your family wants. Do it if it’s what YOU want. The exact same goes for a career path. If you want to work outside the home, you should absolutely do it—if that’s your dream & your desire, go chase it, girl!
It comes down to this: your life, your choice.
Ladies, we should be lifting each other up, straightening each other’s crowns—not pointing at them to critique, judge, or mock & deciding who’s is better than the other.
At it’s core, feminism celebrates the beauty of a woman’s choice. It’s not about forcing every woman into the same mold. It’s about empowering her to choose her own diverse path & supporting her.
So here’s to the women building empires, here’s to the women building homes, & here’s to the women doing both.